Maybe you have a boyfriend, maybe you have a fuck buddy, or a guy you have had your eye on for quite a while or you might not even be looking for a relationship, whatever your feeling may be relationships are part of our lives.
Now, if you have just started dating a guy or even if you are married there are some things you should avoid doing or you could end up spending more time having “sexy times” with your right hand than with your man. So here they are, the things you should NOT DO when in a relationship. (BELIEVE me I have been down this road more than a couple of times!)
No Nagging: Nagging can be a slow destroyer of relationships. The most important thing to do is to catch yourself when you are going on about something that you feel you have already said and now are just repeating yourself. This is not only annoying but will surely create a distance between you and your partner.
DO NOT BRING UP THE PAST: This is a sure way to start an argument. When you start throwing things out from your bag of memories and shove them in your partners face, this will most likely lead to your partner doing the same and then all hell will break loose. If something bothers you about your relationship, then SAY IT! Do not let things just sit and then bring it up 2 or 5 months down the line. That will only buy you a one way ticket to Lonely Town.
Don’t make it ALL about YOU. Every relationship is give and take, talk and listen, so when you have the chance to do so don’t make things all about how YOU feel. Take some time to ask your partner how things are with HIM. Once you know how things are with him then discuss how things are with “US”. Remember being in a relationship means compromise and negotiation. So if you don’t want to listen to Danity Kane cos you HATE them but your partner is REALLY into a song of theirs, just let it go, your good deed will be rewarded at some other time.
And finally, DO NOT BE JEALOUS! Jealousy is a tricky thing. Jealousy every now and then is natural but when it becomes intense and irrational then something’s gotta give and it will most likely be the relationship. Be open and honest about how you both feel and keep jealousy in check, cos out of all of the things you can do to fuck up a relationship this probably takes the cake.
Following these easy rules to not fucking it up will give you piece of mind that you’re doing everything in your power to have a healthy and loving relationship. And let’s face it EVERY ONE of us deserves that.
